Negative Thinking

Negative thoughts drain you of energy and keep you from being in the present moment. The more you give in to your negative thoughts, the stronger they become. I like the imagery of a small ball rolling along the ground, and as it rolls, it becomes bigger and faster.

That�s what one small negative thought can turn into: a huge, speeding ball of ugliness. On the contrary, a small positive thought can have the same effect blossoming into a beautiful outcome.

I�d like to share with you an example of how one small thought can turn into a very negative experience.

For the last ten years, I have lived on my own. Obviously during this time, I�ve grown accustomed to living in a particular way; I have my routines with cooking, cleaning and living happily in my place.

My boyfriend of two years who I have had a long distance relationship with will soon be moving here and we will be living together. Lately, I�ve had negative thoughts of moving in with him knowing that my living routine will have to change and we will have to produse a new routine together.

Unfortunately, I�ve already jumped into the future and have had thoughts that we will not be able to come up with a living arrangement that will make us both happy. In my mind, I have seen myself already getting angry about our cooking and cleaning situation.

He came for a surprise visit this past weekend and boy, was it a surprise for him. We had a miserable weekend together. I did not enjoy his company because I was already angry with him and he was confused and equally frustrated with me. What could have been a really fabulous weekend ended up being a painful and heavy weekend.

When we start to have negative thoughts, it�s hard to stop them. And it�s much easier said than done to shift your focus to positive thoughts. But, it�s the only way�especially if you want to avoid going down a path that is painful and unnecessary.